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The primary responsibility of education DOES NOT belong to schools. Don't let the indoctrination of your children bring shame to you.

And you shall love the LORD thy God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might. And these words, which I command you this day, shall be in your heart: And you shall teach them diligently unto your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise up. Deuteronomy 6:5-7

And, you fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4

My, son hear the instruction of your father, and forsake not the law of your mother. Proverbs 1:8

Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding. Proverbs 4:1

He that begets a fool does it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool has no joy. A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him. Proverbs 17:21,25

Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

For the children are not obligated to store up for the parents, but the parents for the children.  2 Corinthians 12:14b (PNT)

"To give children a good education in manners, arts and science is important; to give them a religious education is indispensable; and an immense responsibility rests on parents and guardians who neglect these duties." --Daniel Webster

"The joys of parents are secret, and so are their griefs and fears: they cannot utter the one, nor will they utter the other." --Sir Francis Bacon


Scriptures concerning Young Children & Older Children

Further Resources


Parents & Children: For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 1 Corinthians 7:14

Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman wakes but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he gives his beloved sleep. Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. Psalms 127

Making Space for Character in a Tech-overloaded World by Lindy Keffer - We live in a culture saturated by technology. The information, promotions, opportunities and noise it creates seem to fill in the cracks of our already-busy lives so that every waking moment is occupied. In the midst of the hubbub, teachable moments for developing character are often lost. But parents who are intentional about finding those moments can succeed at raising kids with moral fiber, and at creating small pockets of sanity in a tech-overloaded world. ...Our techno-gadgetry allows us to stay in contact with so many different friends that we're often guilty of ignoring the people in the room with us in favor of those we're talking to online or on the cell phone. Furthermore, we sometimes interact long-distance in ways that we wouldn't up close, and intimacy is lost. It takes some intentionality to ensure that real, high-touch bonds get maintained in an age of cyber-communication.

Where Do Children Go When They Die? - By Brian Fischer - What happens to children who die but weren't old enough to make a decision for Christ? The Bible offers clues and hope. ...While we certainly might wish there was more information on this matter in Scripture, there is enough to give us a sense of assurance about the eternal destination of children who die early.  ...Perhaps the clearest passage concerns David and the son he conceived in his adulterous liaison with Bathsheba (2 Samuel 12:15-23).     ...When talking about where children go when they die, questions about the age of accountability flow naturally from the conversation. Again, while we certainly could wish for more information on this topic, the Bible is clear enough to give us some definitive answers.  That there is an "age of accountability" is evident from a very famous passage in Scripture found in Isaiah7:14-16.  ..."He shall eat curds and honey when he knows how to refuse the evil and choose the good. For before the boy knows how to refuse the evil and choose the good, the land whose two kings you dread will be deserted" (Isaiah 7:15-16).     ...In the Jewish culture in which Jesus grew up, boys went through what today is called a "bar mitzvah" at age 12. ("Bar mitzvah" literally means "a son of the law.") At age 12, a boy was no longer to be considered a boy but a young man, who now had responsibility to make mature decisions and be held accountable for his own behavior. Before age 12, his parents were held accountable for his behavior, but from age 12 and on he was to accept full responsibility for his own decisions.  This is why Jesus was in the Temple at age 12, "sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions" (Luke 2:46). Every adult male had a responsibility to be in Jerusalem for the major feasts, and Jesus was now regarded, at age 12, as an adult male with adult responsibilities.   

Additional Scripture to consider...

   1 Corinthians 7:13-14 - And the woman which has an husband that believes not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

   John 9:41 Jesus said unto them, If ye were blind, ye should have no sin: but now ye say, We see; therefore your sin remains.(Romans 2:11-13, 5:13, 7:7)

Parents - Are You a Yeller? By Dr. Meg Meeker - Kids who are yelled at by their parents are more likely to have depression and behavior problems, a new study in Child Development finds. This is no surprise, so why do a study?  I think we need studies like this so that academics can remind us parents to take our jobs seriously. I know that I do. Words cut deeply, particularly the words that flow from a parent's mouth to a child, whether that child is 6 or 66. ...So when a parent screams at a child, the pain cuts deeply. Some parenting experts say that kids don't hear parents scream because they tune them out. I completely disagree. Kids hear alright; they just pretend not to hear because they simply don't know what to do with the hurt.

No, the Era of Spanking Is Not Over - By Bryan Fischer
...In the case of defiant and contrary children, "spanking...has been shown to result in less defiance and less aggression than 77% of alternative measures (including time-out) with these children."
..."Folly is bound up in the heart of a child; but the rod of discipline drives it far from him" (Proverbs 22:15).
...Now to be sure, discipline must be measured, controlled, and appropriate.
..."Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him" (Proverbs 13:24).
..."The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother" (Proverbs 29:15)
...But loving discipline, on the other hand, yields fruit that is sweet to the taste.
..."Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart" (Proverbs 29:17).
...The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that we don't spank our children. God recommends that we do. I think I'm going with God on this one.

The Secret to Discipline: Action Not Anger Does yelling and getting angry as a parent really help you in disciplining your children? Dr. Dobson doesn't think so. Watch this classic lesson on why action is more important than anger when it comes to a child's obedience. Watch Part 2: Linking Behavior To Consequences

Boys and Girls are Different! (Here's why) - By Dr. James Dobson - The basis of our society hinges upon understanding that God created boys and girls differently as part of His master plan of creation. Any uncertainty or confusion on our part as parents on this topic will be damaging, not only to our sons and daughters but also to the long-term stability of our world. ...It is also important for us as adults to understand our own sexual identities. If we don't know who we are, our kids will be doubly confused about who they are.

   ...I urge you to protect your boys from those who are espousing these postmodern views. Shield both your sons and daughters from gender feminism and from those who would seek to confuse their sexuality. Protect the masculinity of your boys, who will be under increasing political pressure in years to come. Buffer them from the perception that most adult males are sexual predators who are violent and disrespectful to women.
   ...Finally, I urge you to base your teachings about sexuality on the Scriptures, which tell us, "God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them" (Genesis 1:27). Jesus, who was the first Jewish leader to give dignity and status to women, said, "Haven't you read . . . that at the beginning the Creator "made them male and female," and, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh" (Matthew 19:4-5). That is the divine plan. It leaves no doubt that the Creator made not one sex but two, each beautifully crafted to "fit with" and meet the needs of the other. Any effort to teach children differently is certain to produce turmoil in the soul of a child.

According to the CDC, DOJ, DHHS and the Bureau of the Census, the 30 percent of children who live apart from their fathers will account for 63 percent of teen suicides, 70 percent of juveniles in state-operated institutions, 71 percent of high-school dropouts, 75 percent of children in chemical-abuse centers, 80 percent of rapists, 85 percent of youths in prison, and 85 percent of children who exhibit behavioral disorders. In addition, 90 percent of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. In fact, children born to unwed mothers are 10 times more likely to live in poverty as children with fathers in the home. (PatriotPost

Why French Kids Don't Have ADHD - French children don't need medications to control their behavior. - By Marilyn Wedge Ph.D.Suffer the Children - French parents, Druckerman observes, love their children just as much as American parents. They give them piano lessons, take them to sports practice, and encourage them to make the most of their talents. But French parents have a different philosophy of discipline. Consistently enforced limits, in the French view, make children feel safe and secure. Clear limits, they believe, actually make a child feel happier and safer, something that is congruent with my own experience as both a therapist and a parent. Finally, French parents believe that hearing the word "no" rescues children from the "tyranny of their own desires." And spanking, when used judiciously, is not considered child abuse in France.


Instruction & Discipline: Driven by love, not in anger or frustration, but in love, to provide a foundational structure and a moral compass for a virtuous direction in life. This parental love should override the emotional excuse of guilt, if a working parent. Parental obligations need also to reject "being friends" with their children when providing direction.

Children - Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
- He that begets a fool does it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool has no joy. A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him. Proverbs 17:21,25
- He that spares his rod hates his son: but he that loves him chastens him betimes. Proverbs 13:24
- Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 22:15
- Withhold not correction from the child; for if you beats him with the rod, he shall not die.  Proverbs 23:13
- The rod and reproof give wisdom; but a child left to himself brings his mother to shame.  Correct your son, and he shall give you rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul. Proverbs 29:15,17
(...Or perhaps as a parent you believe Dr. Spock and Benjamin Siegel M.D. possess more wisdom than the Word of God?)

Christian Parents Try New Strategy to Help Millennials Grow Up --/Christian Newswire/ -- It's a question that nags at every parent: "Have I successfully prepared my child for life on their own?" Just One More Thing is a practical guide to help teens transition out of their parents' home and into the rest of their lives. When the Gudgels' oldest child reached his senior year of high school, they began to get a little frantic. "It started as an experiment," said David Gudgel about his book. "I wanted to make sure I had done my best to teach my son about the hard topics of life." So Author & Pastor David Gudgel wrote out a list of topics to discuss with his son over Saturday breakfasts throughout that year. Kind of a last minute effort to be a really good parent. According to his son it was a surprisingly great experience, so the Gudgels repeated the process with their other two children. Then others began asking for the lessons to use with their kids too. And the result was the book Just One More Thing: Before You Leave Home.

Bible ranks low as resource for parenting Allie Marin - OneNewsNow - A survey finds that while most parents want to improve their parenting skills, few look to the church or God's Word for guidance. The survey was conducted by LifeWay Research, the research arm of LifeWay Christian Resources of the Southern Baptist Convention. According to the results, 96 percent of parents said they try to be better parents. However, 60 percent of parents use their own experiences as the primary source of guidance when it comes to parenting. And only 14 percent said they are very familiar with what the Bible says about parenting.

D.L. Moody stated: "It is a masterpiece of the devil to make us believe that children cannot understand religion. Would Christ have made a child the standard of faith if He had known that it was not capable of understanding His words?"

Mark 10:13-14 - And they brought young children to him, that he should touch them: and his disciples rebuked those that brought them. But when Jesus saw it, he was much displeased, and said unto them, Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God.


Dr. James Dobson Delivers Clear Mandate for the Family - /Christian Newswire/ -- Dr. James Dobson capped his four-night, two-weekend, BUILDING A FAMILY LEGACY event with a ringing call to parents to be active, involved and, most of all, present in the lives of their children. "Culture flows like a powerful river, and it is extremely difficult to prevent your kids from being swept downstream into unknown waters," said Dr. Dobson, the author of 30 best sellers including The Strong-Willed Child and Bringing Up Girls. "You must not become distracted from your ultimate priority, which is to raise healthy children and introduce them to Jesus Christ."

PARENTING AND MARRIAGE VIDEOS - Dr. James Dobson's 90-Second Commentary Videos

Principles that help in parenting 1. Rules Without Relationships Lead to Rebellion Kids don't respond to rules, they respond to rules in the context of a loving, intimate relationship. It is much easier to establish rules, to pass on your values and beliefs, and to discipline, if you have developed a relational foundation with your child. 2. Kids Spell Love T-I-M-E One of the most important ways to communicate a child's personal worth is to spend time with them. When you are available to your children, it says, "You are important." When we're not available, we are saying in essence, "I love you, but other things still come ahead of you." Years ago, my wife gave me a great piece of advice: "If you spend time with your children now, they will spend time with you later." 3. Catch Your Kids Doing Something Right and Praise Them for It Instead of catching your kids doing something wrong and disciplining them for it, try focusing on catching them doing something right and appreciate them for it. So often kids tell me, "The fastest way to get my dad's attention is to do something wrong." Expressing appreciation gives children a sense of significance. Our appreciation tells them they are valued, and their accomplishments make a difference to someone.  

'The most popular child-rearing book ever' is back! Practical guide to bringing up kids based on biblical wisdom - 2010 WorldNetDaily - After raising his own six children and learning many things the hard way, author and pastor Reb Bradley wrote a practical guide to bringing up kids that uses biblical wisdom as its basis. Entitled simply "Child Training Tips," Bradley's book presents common obstacles to successful parenting and solutions to help overcome them. "It's the most popular child-rearing book ever at WND," says Joseph Farah, the website's founder, editor and CEO. There was just one little problem, said Farah. The book kept selling out. But now it's back in quantities in the WND Superstore.  

Give ear, O my people, to my law: incline your ears to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter dark sayings of old: Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, showing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he has done. For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children: That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments: And might not be as their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation that set not their heart aright, and whose spirit was not steadfast with God. The children of Ephraim, being armed, and carrying bows, turned back in the day of battle. They kept not the covenant of God, and refused to walk in his law; And forget his works, and his wonders that he had showed them. Psalms 78:1-11


Young Children

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. Psalms 127:3

As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Psalms 127:4

Your wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of your house: thy children like olive plants round about your table.  Psalms 128:3

For he has strengthened the bars of your gates; he has blessed your children within you. Psalms 147:13

He that spares his rod hates his son: but he that loves him chastens him betimes. Proverbs 13:24

In the fear of the LORD is strong confidence; and his children shall have a place of refuge.  Proverbs 14:26

Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it.  Proverbs 22:6

Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 22:15

Withhold not correction from the child; for if you beats him with the rod, he shall not die.  Proverbs 23:13

The rod and reproof give wisdom; but a child left to himself brings his mother to shame.  Correct your son, and he shall give you rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul. Proverbs 29:15,17


Older Children

Visit "Truth for Youth" If your children will keep my covenant and my testimony that I shall teach them, their children shall also sit upon your throne for evermore. Psalms 132:12

My, son hear the instruction of your father, and forsake not the law of your mother.  Proverbs 1:8

Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding.  Proverbs 4:1

Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. Proverbs 5:7

Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. Proverbs 7:24

Now therefore hearken unto me, O ye children; for blessed are they that keep my ways.  Proverbs 8:32

The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes glad a father; but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother. Proverbs 10:1

A wise son makes a glad father; but a foolish man despises his mother. Proverbs 15:20

Children's children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers. Proverbs 17:6

He that begets a fool does it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool has no joy. A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him. Proverbs 17:21,25

Chasten your son while there is hope, and let not your soul spare for his crying. Proverbs 19:18

He that wastes his father, and chases away his mother, is a son that causes shame, and brings reproach. Proverbs 19:26

The just man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him. Proverbs 20:7

Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right. Proverbs 20:11

The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice; and he that begets a wise child shall have joy of him. Your father and your mother shall be glad, and she that bares you shall rejoice. Proverbs 23:24,25

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. Proverbs 31:28


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