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Hope For Homosexuals
And resources for parents and family members

If the evil one wants to undermine God, he must attack God's favored design of marriage between one man and one woman and subsequently God's design for family which is the foundation for a civil society?

"There is no such thing as 'a homosexual.' Homosexuality is not what you are. It's what you do." Stephen Bennett

Survey Finds Counseling to Reduce Homosexuality Can be Effective, Beneficial

   The People Can Change survey found other reported outcomes from counseling were:

   53% of respondents said their unwanted homosexual behaviors were reduced or eliminated

   38% said heterosexual attractions emerged or increased

   58% said any remaining homosexual attractions became less troubling

   69% said their self-esteem improved

   69% said their shame diminished

   71% became more self-accepting 66% felt more at peace

Landmark Book Shows a Christian Way Out of Same-Sex Bondage --//Christian Newswire/ -- Mercy Triumphs, Inc., announced today the availability of the book, Mercy Triumphs over Judgment -- a long-awaited publication that explains methodically how to apply Biblical truth to set people free from the sin/addiction of same- sex attraction and practice. The book's author, Joanne Highley, distills almost 40 years of successful counseling experience on how same-sex attraction and practices can be faced, confessed as sin, forgiven and cleansed by God through the blood of His Son, Jesus, and worked through to freedom of mind, will and emotions.

   Mrs. Highley has counseled thousands of men and women wanting to break the emotional bondage of same-sex attraction and practice. Her counseling approach involves helping counselees identify the initial causes that have led to sexual bondage, counselees' involuntary reactions to the pain of abuse, family dysfunction and personal rejection, and the voluntary acceptance of ungodly sexual behavior to cover the pain of the past. The resulting sexual bondage is marked by idolatry, deception, unreality and evil desires. Subtitled A Christian Way Out of Homosexuality and Other Emotional Bondage, the 400-plus page book defines homosexuality and shows "The Way to Freedom." Chapters include "The Spiritual Work," "Working Through Buried Emotions," "Untwisting Warped Thoughts," "Casting Out the False Identity," and breaking lies of "A False Concept of God." Stirringly precise and explicit, yet richly pastoral and scripturally informed, Mercy Triumphs over Judgment is a virtual handbook for those caught in emotional and sexual bondage. With it, they can do the personal and glorious work that leads to total freedom and new life in Christ.

   According to Dr. Paul de Vries, president of New York Divinity School and past board member of the National Association of Evangelicals, Mercy Triumphs over Judgment provides "deep wisdom and guidance for the lives hurt by sexual abuse and challenged by same-sex attraction. This wonderful book ministers to readers through the uplifting and transforming teachings of the Scriptures and the Spirit." He continues, "It is also a refreshing escape from the too politically charged and often judgmental language coming from many sides of the current 'homosexual debates.'" Dr. de Vries is among numerous pastors, church and ministry leaders, and Christian authors who, having read Mrs. Highley's book in manuscript, enthusiastically endorse and heartily recommend the book for those grappling with issues of their sexual identity, as well as for those who love and minister to them.

   The hardcover Mercy Triumphs over Judgment – A Christian Way Out of Homosexuality and Other Emotional Bondage is now available for $28.99, plus a small shipping cost, through Amazon.com.  

Former Homosexuals Rise Up to Declare that Jesus Christ Can Change the Homosexual --/Christian Newswire/ -- Newly released documentary "Such Were Some of You" confronts the rising tide of popular opinion by chronicling the stories of 29 former homosexual men and women who say that Jesus Christ has transformed their lives. Experts in psychology, (Dr. Julie Hamilton), biblical scholarship (Dr. Robert Gagnon) and ministry (Dr. Neil Anderson) add their voice to the claim that people have been leaving homosexuality for millennia.
   Created to be used in Sunday School classes, support groups and other group settings, "Such Were Some of You" has been designed as a discipleship and equipping tool for the Body of Christ. The "witnesses to change" describe how they developed homosexual confusion, what the gay lifestyle was really like, how Jesus Christ set them free and the many ways that He has been healing and transforming their lives ever since. Participants include ex-gays from numerous ethnic backgrounds and age brackets, including one former gay activist who dramatically declares at one point, "I am free!"
   This two-hour documentary is available on DVD in a "Regular Edition" and a "Leader's Edition" (which includes a Discussion Guide and a license to screen the video in group settings). For more information, go to: www.SuchWereSomeOfYou.org and www.PurePassionMedia.org. Also available for screening in churches and conferences.

Maybe He's Not Gay: Another View on Homosexuality - New Book by Linda Harvey Especially for youth! We are pleased to announce a brand new book by Linda Harvey, especially for youth. "How many books exist for teens about homosexuality? About the deception of the culture and the hope for every young person?" said Linda Harvey, president of Mission America. ...As more and more young people announce, "I'm gay," it's time to take a closer look. It's a profound declaration, a new civil right (they are told) and it's "who you are." But there's a problem. This is not anything close to the truth, and kids deserve the whole story.

"Maybe He's Not Gay" hits home run, catches homo-activist flak By Gina Miller - (Listen to an audio version of this column) - Mission America Radio Host, speaker and author Linda Harvey is spot-on over the target with her excellent new book for young people, Maybe He's Not Gay: Another View on Homosexuality, and she's catching frenzied homosexual activist flak because of it. I am on Linda Harvey's e-mail list, and she recently sent out an alert that her book had been released and was available at Amazon.com. She also said that the radical homosexual activists had immediately waged a vicious assault campaign against it in the reviews and comments section. Many of the "reviewers" had clearly not read her book, and instead hurled despicable lies at Linda. Because of this, she directed that the book be pulled from Amazon. She has since put it back up on Amazon, and the senseless vitriol continues. The book is also available in paperback or e-book form at the Next Century Store.
...But here's the truth that the homo-radicals don't want you to know: this book is an excellent, valuable and much-needed resource for kids who may be dealing with same-sex attraction; not only for them, but also for parents, teachers, pastors, counselors and any young person today, since most of our kids are under a barrage of pro-homosexual propaganda in their schools, from the media and entertainment industries. It is a very well-written, concise and plainly-worded book that takes young people through the whole process of examining homosexuality, peer pressures, causes, the homosexual agenda, family and school issues – the whole nine yards. She wraps up with the message of help, hope and freedom found in Jesus Christ.

Study Guide Now Available for Book, 'Maybe He's Not Gay' --/Christian Newswire/ -- Linda Harvey, author of the book Maybe He's Not Gay: Another View on Homosexuality, announced today that a guide for small group study for the book has been published on the Mission America web site. "Youth groups, college roundtables, and adult Sunday school classes can now explore the many facets of the issue of homosexuality through in-depth discussions centered aroundMaybe He's Not Gay," said Harvey, founder and president of Mission America. Harvey is a Christian radio talk show host, a speaker, columnist and author who writes frequently about the homosexual political agenda and its destructive impact on America, particularly on our youth. 
   The guide is available at no cost on the Mission America site. This highly-acclaimed book is tailored especially for teens and young adults but has been praised by adults who appreciate its common sense, biblically-based approach to a difficult and controversial issue. Published in January 2014, the book presents the view that adolescents who claim a "gay" identity are not getting the whole picture and have been misled into believing the "LGBT" identity is risk-free and inborn like race. They have also been persuaded, contrary to research and many personal testimonies, that there's no hope of change.
   By contrast, Harvey points out, the conservative Christian view remains the most realistic and hopeful one, that homosexuality is behavior and preference, not destiny, and many people have left it behind. Same sex attractions among the young are not a hopeless dilemma, but it's important for adolescents to understand the foundation of human design as male and female and God's hopeful plan for sexuality. "The picture is truly compassionate and offers a positive life direction for America's youth," Harvey emphasized. More information is available at the Mission America web site at www.missionamerica.com right on the home page.

Dr. Rosaria Champagne Butterfield. (84m51s) As a tenured lesbian professor at Syracuse University, Dr. Butterfield had no desire to become part of the “heterosexist, patriarchal culture” that she perceived to be the identity of Christianity. Her thinking was challenged by the letter of a local pastor who inquired about her basic presuppositions and asked her questions no one had ever asked her before. What began as an academic exercise to find fault with the Scripture and expose the darker side of Christianity ended with answers and a deep faith in Christ.

New Ex-’Gay’ Group, Restored Hope Network, Formed as Christian Alternative to Exodus International By Peter LaBarbera, AFTAH (8/2012) - Americans For Truth is excited to hear about the formation of this Christian ”ex-gay” alternative to Exodus International, which has lost the trust of many pro-family advocates and Christian leaders due to the perceived unbiblical and erroneous statements by Exodus leader Alan Chambers. See this paper by Bible-and-homosexuality expert and Pittsburgh Theological Seminary Prof. Robert Gagnon as the best critique of Chambers’ liberal tilt. Also see former homosexual DL Foster’s blog, Gay Christian Movement Watch. We will have more on the Exodus and Chambers controversy in future posts.

Rabbonim OK Therapeutic Approach to Homosexuality By Hana Levi Julian, MSW, LCSW-R  - A coalition of Orthodox rabbis, leaders and mental health professionals sign "Declaration on the Torah Approach to Homosexuality." A coalition of more than 150 Orthodox rabbis, community leaders, organizers and respected mental health professionals have given an historic stamp of approval to a document entitled a "Declaration on the Torah Approach to Homosexuality." The document, seeks for the first time to clarify the theological understanding of the Biblically mandated prohibition, as well as presents what the authors and signators see as a practical and achievable solution for those faced with same-gender attractions. The treatment recommended in the statement is reparative or gender-affirming therapy, defined in the Declaration as "reinforcing the natural gender-identity of the individual by helping him or her understand and repair the emotional wounds that led to its disorientation and weakening...

Teshuva, ("return" or "repentance" in Hebrew) which the statement sees as a necessary component, is the Torah-mandated "self-motivated process of turning away from any transgression or sin and returning to G-d and one's spiritual essence. These processes are typically facilitated and coordinated with the help of a specially trained counselor or therapist working in conjunction with a qualified spiritual teacher or guide," the statement says. "There is no other practical, Torah-sanctioned solution for this issue." The statement -- which goes out of its way to caution against  castigation of the individual while forbidding the practice - and notes "They deserve our full love, support and encouragement in their striving towards healing" -- is likely to be met with a storm of protest from those favoring alternative lifestyle choice both in Israel and abroad.

..."The timing of the Declaration to coincide with Hanukkah, which celebrates the Jews' resistance to forced Hellenization, was not coincidental," the statement said. "Homosexuality was one of the hallmarks of ancient Greek culture. Behaviors are changeable. The Torah does not forbid something which is impossible to avoid." . The full Declaration on the Torah Approach to Homosexuality and the names and affiliations of the signatories to the document can be obtained by clicking here.

Resources for homosexuals


People Can Change

Survey Reveals Why Some 'Same Sex Attracted' Men Seek Change - MEDIA ADVISORY, July 13 /Christian Newswire/ -- Why would anyone with homosexual attractions try to “go straight”? According to conventional wisdom, the answer is inevitably “internalized homophobia” or societal pressure.

But a new survey of almost 200 same-sex-attracted men who are pursuing change paints a very different picture: Out of 18 possible motivations listed in the survey, outside pressure was the least frequently cited motivating factor reported by the 189 survey respondents.

The most frequently cited motivation was a desire to heal emotional hurts that respondents believe contributed to their same-sex attractions (SSA) to begin with.

The desire to heal emotional pain was cited as a major motivator by 77% of respondents, compared to 22% who identified “outside pressure” as a major motivator. In fact, just 3% identified outside pressure as one of the three main reasons they were seeking change.

The survey was conducted by People Can Change, a non-profit, non-religious self-help organization of men who have overcome unwanted homosexual attractions and who now support others who seek similar change.

On average, each respondent identified 14 of the 18 factors as contributing to their desire to change. Other factors identified as major motivators include:

personal spirituality – 68% desire for wife and children – 66% religious teachings – 63% desire for nonsexual male friendships – 63% conscience – 63% expectation of unhappiness in gay life – 63%.

Richard Wyler, a professional life coach who is the founder and executive director of People Can Change, summarized, “This survey indicates that same-sex- attracted men who seek change may be less influenced by outside pressure or shame than is generally assumed. Rather, they are more often motivated by their personal spirituality, deeply held values and beliefs, a desire to have a family, and a desire to heal emotional pain.”

The current survey didn’t explore perceived “root causes,” but a 2004 survey by People Can Change found that men seeking to overcome SSA most frequently perceived the root causes of their own attractions to be:

a history of father-son relationship problems, a history of problems relating with male peers, unhealthy mother-son relationships, a history of sexual abuse, and individual personality traits.

Complete summaries of both surveys are available at www.peoplecanchange.com.

Based in Virginia, People Can Change offers experiential healing retreats, personal coaching, an educational web site and online support groups.

Resources for parents and family members of homosexuals

PFOX (Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays & Gays) is aware of the following resources for those struggling with unwanted same sex attractions, and for their families and friends:

If you are a parent, sibling, or friend of someone in homosexuality, email  PFOX_Coordinator@hotmail.com to see if there is a local PFOX chapter in your area or if you would like to start a chapter where none is available.  PFOX chapters hold regular group support meetings. 

Want to volunteer for PFOX and work to advance the ex-gay community?  Send an email to: pfox_exgays@hotmail.com  and ask for the current list of volunteer projects.

PFOX sponsors an e-mail discussion group at Yahoo Groups at https://groups.yahoo.com/group/ex-gay .   It is comprised of parents, friends, and spouses of strugglers, as well as ex-gays.  You can just read the email postings or join in the discussion at any time with your particular day to day hopes and struggles.  If you would like to join, send a blank e-mail to:  ex-gay-subscribe@yahoogroups.com

PFOX maintains an ex-gay speakers bureau for local events, schools, conferences and church engagements.  Whether you are looking to address the origin of homosexuality, or an encouraging testimony of overcoming homosexuality, PFOX can help.  Email pfox_exgays@hotmail.com for speaking and travel fees.

"Jesus Never Said Anything About Homosexuality, Did He?"
And "Against Nature" & "Without Excuse"

Jesus said: Have you not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder. Matthew 19:4-6

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Genesis 2:24

It doesn't say, that a man could leave his father and father, and cleave to his husband (goes against nature), and be fruitful (impossible).

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